halfsquaretriangles asked: via katy! you had just been in the accident and were injuryblogging, and i felt SO much kinship with you that maybe i didn't articulate whoops because the first thing i did after leaving my shitty ex was get badly injured in a way that needed a lot of physiotherapy and hard work and time and relearning how to walk/be in a body, and i related so hard to what you were writing. i am so happy you are getting close to finishing your zine and can't wait to read it.

Ah! Yes! I remember reading your posts when I was laid up in bed and also relating so hard to what you were writing. Even though I had done some occasional traumablogging before that, your stories really pushed me towards feeling that "I am actually not alone!" and "I need to talk/write about this no matter what!" I love your style of articulating with this kind of casual intimacy that to me reads as fearless and strong even when you are writing about things that are difficult and painful. I love the attention to detail as you record nuances of emotion and memory and even confusion — that’s helped me be more attentive to my own feelings and also reminded me that if I can’t remember a thing, it’s just as valid to write about the feeling of not remembering a thing, which has been very important during my zine-writing. Also, your selfies are exquisite and your food photos are always stunning. Also, scare-quote Franzen!! Thank you!

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scumblebee asked: i don't necessarily remember following you. i remember the things that impacted me, your blogging about abuse and alcoholism was really meaningful to me in times that i really needed it. you write longform in a way that i have trouble with doing myself but really look up to and enjoy reading. and we traded zines, and that was nice. and you sent me that boot. you have really been incredible to me, and i'm surprised you still follow me.

Your blogging about abuse and alcoholism was also really meaningful to me in times that I really needed it! & I forgot to mention in my following-ask to you that I think your selfies are sublime, I really admire your fashion sense (even though you probably be able to tell I give a crap about fashion ‘cause I wear the same coupla shirts every week since there’s no reason to dress up to go to office cave :P)

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Okay, I’ve responded to a few of these “why did you start following me” things and it’s been really fun and heartwarming and mutual confidence-building and a cool memory exercise for me & now I kinda wanna do this thing, too.

So if you want, please send me an ask about when/why you started following me…

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mylifeinmegabytes asked: Um, anytime I run into any dudebros are you call them on the sidewalk, they usually part like the red sea for me. All you got to be is confidant. Also sorry about the creepy dude, I would just pretend I was getting a call and be like "I got to take this"

Hi, I appreciate your encouragement but actually I think that all dudebros got to do is stop raping, stop molesting, stop abusing, stop assaulting, stop harassing, stop hassling, stop catcalling, stop groping, stop touching without permission, stop taking up space, stop yelling, stop talking, and stop breathing.

400blowjobs asked: Does being a shitty person or doing shitty stuff invalidate someone's accomplishments, in your opinion? Like in the cases of Jack Kerouac or MLK jr.?

Well, I don’t think it’s appropriate to draw a comparison in this case to a literary icon with a civil rights leader, since those are two very different types of “accomplishments.”

I don’t necessarily think it’s always terrible to like a piece of art that comes from a problematic source… I mean, I still have my copies of On the Road, Howl, Naked Lunch, etc. and I still (begrudgingly) enjoy passages from those works even if I think their authors are pieces of garbage. But I think it’s important to recognize when the source of a work is not actually the perfectly amazing genius nice guy they’re made out to be… What sickens me is that certain ~artists~ (e.g. the beats I was complaining about) can get away with being shitty people and still be lauded as “American heroes” and “creative geniuses” and “great guys” while the shitty things they’ve done are minimized or simply ignored. Meanwhile, oftentimes others (like women, PoC, people who aren’t straight white dudes) are also making great works but are often overpowered by the loudness and huge insistent presence of shittier people (which applies to probably most creative movements, “scenes,” etc.) I’m glad I wrote that little rant because I got a lot of suggestions for other things to read instead! I’d rather be reading good works by good people who maybe weren’t as popular or visible or well-publicized, than just getting angry about how the popular works I used to like were actually written by jerks…

But in short, I mean, does creating a ~Great Work~ invalidate being a shitty person?

Anonymous asked: accounting is for nerds

otherwhales replied to your photo: Honus Wagner (reprint by Duane Rieder)

have you been watching ken burns baseball documentary?

YES, it is amazing!

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Is it The Patriarchy when I’m walking home at night and some fratty bros are all, “HOW ‘BOUT THEM DAWGS” and even though I’m a like decade older than them and absolutely hate college football and everything it represents, all I can manage is a slight nervous laugh?

Thanks y’all for the responses re: my medication. Somehow I knew Tumblr would be more reliable/”realer” shit than asking WebMD et al. I’m actually already feeling better/less jittery and it was reassuring to hear that what I was experiencing was “normal”-ish. (Also a great help you guys because it’s $20 if I stay on the phone with my doctor for more than 5 minutes, heh.)

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Y’all, is it normal/a thing that can happen if you take a particular antidepressant for a few months (Zoloft) and it works wonderfully and has a calming effect and then you stop taking it for like a year and then when you get back on it and it makes you jittery and more anxious the second time around? It’s been about a week and the prescription cost a lot (for me) and I don’t want it to be a waste of money. Do I need to wait longer to get used to it/build up a tolerance again?